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Why Your GPA Does Not Matter In Life

Hey all!

I hope everyone is excited for the end of the semester! Although I’m really not that pumped for my last few final exams, I know that we’re all in the home stretch. It sure feels good!

As everyone is cramming for finals (myself included) I thought that I would take a minute to refer to the ol’ GPA scale, and how much I’ve seen it effect students, literally across the board. Of course, people take different perspectives on having a high GPA, and while I do have a few friends that keep a steady 4.0, there is a lot to be said about not having top marks.

It is definitely a great thing to have a high grade point average, but most times in your career you won’t need to repeat back information on exams. How quickly you can define “antidisestablishmentarianism” doesn’t exactly help your career….unless your being asked to do so in a political debate.

Don’t get me wrong- knowing the facts pertaining to your major and keeping up with the reading is surely important, but sometimes we tend to define ourselves when we fail. As humans, we look at our failures and see a greater impact than we do in our successes. For example, I cringe when I think about that stupid remark I said in Psychology, but I actually have to work to think of a time I celebrated on an exam. We’re all too hard on ourselves. I remember freaking out in high school because I wouldn’t be able to graduate with an “advanced honors” diploma. My great argument? “It might hurt my chances to get a job!” A kid in my homeroom scoffed. He gave some great advice, and the teacher agreed. “If someone’s reasoning for not hiring you was because you don’t have an advanced high school diploma, they really need to go check their priorities.” This was great advice, and I didn’t realize how true it was until I got into my sophomore year of college.

I think that having great life experiences is what will allow us to succeed- and if you like reading, keep reading, and if your GPA is important to you, keep it up. But your grades are not an ‘end all’. They do not dictate what you can do, or where you can take your life. If you want to dream big, do it. Move to Italy, and take the last boat to Belize. Live it up and gain experience because most times, you won’t get the chance to make the same choices. So yeah, don’t completely disregard your grades- but if you get the chance to help someone in a way that may change your life, count that before you count that exam you bombed. Chances are, it probably meant more to the both of you.

Good luck on your finals.

Love always.

Molly Catherine ❤

 

 

Why Global Warming is Truly an Issue:

Hey all!

Hoping everyone has had an eventful week- I sure have. ( I was supposed to write this a week ago, BTW.) While catching up with friends and enjoying the summer, I have also been progressively working on my memoir, which is coming along slowly. More importantly, I have taken the time to read a few articles on global warming, and environmental issues.

The hard truth is: The world is in the toilet.

I’m writing a piece on global warming because I didn’t just want this blog to revolve around me. Although my opinion does hold a bit of substance now that I am FINALLY an adult, Global Warming is a serious concept that needs to be addressed. So here are some facts:

  1. It is majorly caused by US.

Whether you threw your soda can out the window on the highway, or just missed the garbage and were too lazy to pick up your mess, you had a major effect on the environment. That’s right- people not cleaning up after themselves has major consequences. This is also an issue on a wider scale- take a look at the 2010 BP Oil Spill. Over 82,000 animals and variations of marine life died after 200 million gallon spilled in to the Gulf. That was us as people being careless, and we need to be held responsible. Not only the significant numerous oil spills into our oceans, but other things like how we dispose of our trash. What about the giant piles of garbage floating around in the ocean? Staten Island is basically floating on a pile of trash. What’s worst is there is there isn’t a beach on this planet that is completely free of trash. It’s pitiful- which brings me to number 2:

2. The temperature of the planet is rising steadily.

Summer isn’t the only season that is getting hotter. Wintertime is warming up at a frightening pace. Th polar ice caps are melting, and polar bears are floating to London! I believe I have made a reference to this terrible event; and as it may seem ironic in a few ways, the reactions people should have are terror, and fear. If a polar bear, from the Arctic, drifted over on a chunk of ice, doesn’t that raise at least a few questions? It’s common sense. The ice caps are breaking apart. They’ll continue to melt until there is nothing left. What about the other species of mammals and animals in the poles? All over the planet? We need to take action because we are hurting animals and beings on the planet. The truth is we aren’t taking care of our planet. You can say it any way you want, but there isn’t a way to justify it. Littering to Global Warming, and to our use of energy and gasoline.

So we’re all hurting our planet. What are you going to do?

Comment or message me on what you think could happen in the future or with ideas to help better our planet, and save places and things that need our help.

Love always,

Molly Catherine ❤

 

 

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How to Keep Calm And Power Through (Even Though You May Not Want To)

It’s Tuesday, all! My favorite day of the week…

As a frequent writer, and the author to The Resilient Girl, I have to figure out fresh ideas for an article every week- which, of course,  means I will have to try new things. This past week, I was experiencing a dreadful case of writers’ block. which did indeed put a hold on publishing this weeks’ article. Nevertheless; I still needed to get typing. Part of how I got started was getting myself out of that hole and motivating myself even though I wasn’t quite back in the zone.  As a person, I love quotes and all of those cheesy,I don’t believe everything happens for a reason. Personally, I think the whole “I went through something and it was totally supposed to because something else wanted it to” way of thinking is crap. I respect other people’s beliefs, but if I am being truly honest, I don’t believe saying that something else caused our problems and the universe wanted it that is the answer. Sometimes bad things happen, and they aren’t always in of our control. Trust me, I know; it sucks. When shit hits the fan, what matters is you power through it. But if there are events that are changing in your life that you can control, take the reins! Get inspired and do whatever you have to in order to get there- because let me tell you, working for something and seeing the end goal is one of the best feelings in the world. When I made my first three pointer ever, I was beyond ecstatic. (Thankfully it wasn’t during a game- I broke out into a happy dance on the court.) I realized if I had quit before I even started, I wouldn’t have that moment.  This also pertains to things WAY beyond basketball- like getting into college. “If you never try, you never know.” Don’t think you can go Ivy League? Then you won’t. But hey, if you’ve got the minimum, go for it! You don’t know unless you give it a shot. It’s tough right now, but trust me, it will get better and soon enough, you’ll be where you want to be.

The sky is the limit when it comes to dreams, so there isn’t anything stopping you from making them a reality! Sure, most goals take time, effort and work, but in the end, you’ll back and say, ‘I got here. I did this. It was worth it and I am proud.’

Go get em, tiger!

Love always.

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Here’s Why Self-love and Acceptance Is So Important:

Happy Saturday all!

Today I was sitting by my computer watching Captain America on Netflix. The action was intense, and team Iron Man was getting creamed. Hawkeye and that robot guy was kicking ass… (Vision?) and so was the Black Widow. If I am 100% honest, one of the thoughts that crossed my mind was, ‘Why can’t I be like Scarlett Johansson?’  See, there are a few problems with that statement. I mean, Scarlett is great; she’s badass in the films, and a feminist and an activist in real life. So why not? The simple answer is: You can be like anyone. But why be anyone but yourself? It’s totally okay to aspire to make a difference, and fight for Civil rights, Women’s Rights, LGBTQ rights, but I wanted to address this because too many people, including myself, live feeling that if people see “the real you” they’ll go running for the hills.

The people who turn away from those who don’t care what others think are a***holes. This is 2018, y’all. People can dress the way they want, play sports that they want, and voice their opinions. I cannot stress how there are so many social stigmas around weight, stereotypes and what people think  “perfect man or woman” should be. The unreasonable expectations of how women are supposed to wear makeup, or react in a calmer manner than how a guy might under stress are absurd. If a female gets upset in public, it’s taboo, but a man starts a fight in a food court and it’s more normal? And if a guy starts crying in public, that’s seen as weakness? How does that work? We are all humans with emotions, and these are normal reactions that are looked at as abnormal. I started dribbling a basketball while walking across campus and I got more than a few funny looks…seriously? We all need to start accepting people for who they are.

We get more jealous of others who are more successful, smarter, or stronger instead of focusing on our accomplishments. We need to be happy for those who are successful, but we also need to love who we are. We should be proud of our goals we have met, and love who we have become over the years. Only then can we let go, and own our individually.

Love, love, love!

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5 Books You Should Absolutely Read:

Reading 57 books throughout 2017 was a really great feeling. I cried when 30% of the books ended, and wished to somehow have the glamorous life of one of the girls’ in Nicholas Sparks novel. Even though life is not a romance novel, and I certainly cannot enter the scene of aJames Patterson murder mystery, it’s still is great to discuss all of the books I’ve read. More importantly, the books I think you should read.

1. Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand

If you are looking for an action-packed book with adventures that give you the chills, yet also have meaning as well as history, Unbroken is the novel for you. It entails telling the remarkable story of Louis Zamperini, an Olympian runner during World War Two. In 1941, he enlisted in the military, earned commission as bombardier. The plane he and his crew were flying ended up crashing into the Pacific. He and two other survivors, Phil and Mac, floated around for 47 days. Zamperini and Phil made it to shore on an Japanese island where they were held as POW’s (Prisoner of war) for over two years. This is my favorite book of all time, and I read it cover to cover every year. It is a story of resilience and courage. One particular lesson this book taught me is that you can always take a lot more stress, and deal with so much more than you think.

2. The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas

This was a phenomenal read, and although I often don’t rate books with five stars, I would most definitely give this one full marks. Narrating the novel is sixteen year old Starr Carter, who is the sole witness to her childhood friend being murdered. With an intense plot and a narrative that only makes you want to read on, Thomas writes about issues that are often not talked about enough; it discusses how we need to talk about these issues, equal opportunities and rights which may not be so equal after all. Furthermore, speaking out and fighting for our rights is extremely important. This book touches on all of these important things, and makes you want to stand up and speak out.

3. The Old Man and The Sea, by Ernest Hemingway

This is clearly a classic, and it truly made me cry. The title is somewhat self explanatory, but this novel definitely dives deeper than just what the title says itself. Hemingway writes about a fisherman who has not caught a fish in 84 days. He finally gets a great catch, but unfortunately he is far out in the middle of the ocean, drifting a long way from home. As the man tries to stay determined and make it back home, we hear about life, and lessons that he realizes along the way.

4. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

This is a great read for anyone who loves classic literature, and it contains an intense plot line. It is a tale of resilience, and refusing to give up. To be completely honest, I haven’t exactly finished the novel yet, but I cannot wait to find out what Ms. Eyre will do. Hopefully, she’ll fall madly in love…

5. The Longest Ride, by Nicholas Sparks

Nicolas Sparks is a master of romance, passion, and the love we wish we all had. The Longest Ride is two beautiful stories intertwined, hearts tangled somewhere in the middle. First there’s college senior Sophia, who falls for the smoldering, and literally hazardous bull rider Luke Collins. (You should see him in the movie!) The pair connects over the little things, and even though they come from two different worlds, they have an undeniable bond. They find a man in a car wreck, Ira, who was going back to the place where he and his late wife spent much of their time. The characters spend time untangling the messy web that is and will become love. Sparks perfectly depicts something that everyone wants, the uncertainty, and passion of meeting the one.

Books make everything better. They give people hope when it seems like there is none left. There are so many more wonderful books you should read, but these are at the top of my list. They are all phenomenal reads. I hope you find them as wonderful as I did!