I had taken a break from blogging for a bit to bring back my focus, but I’m back! Today’s blog post was inspired by my looking at old photos from high school. Honestly, at my first glance at a few photos from basketball, and moments with friends had me staying “Oh my god. I look terrible!” I mean, isn’t that what every girl says at least of the time? Looking back, I realize that I was really hard on myself. Don’t get me wrong, I loved every one of those moments, but some of them that I look at now make me think that I would have had a very different opinion back then. So isn’t that what everyone needs? More self confidence? Here’s a listicle (my new favorite word) on how to make that happen.
STOP SAYING YOU LOOK TERRIBLE IN PHOTOS!
You know it, I know it, even your cousins’ boyfriend knows it. We all do it. We judge photos of ourselves down to the pixel on the screen. If it’s less than perfect, we snap another picture. We do so over and over again until we finally get one that we are satisfied with- or our fingers are frozen from the snowy background. I cannot say how many times my friends and I have gone through the “OMG. I look so fat. This is awful.” Not only do we look at ourselves like Regina George is standing beside us, but most of us lack the ability to even say ‘Hey, I look good- ‘ which is really kind of sad. It’s not narcissistic to be confident. Plus, it was you on the cover of Fashion Weekly last winter, wasn’t it? Be proud of that!
Don’t Be Afraid To Call Someone Out On Their Bullshit:
People make derogatory remarks, or passive comments and a lot of the time we choose to ignore it. Not starting a fight is smart, and I am definitely not saying go punch or yell at your BFF because they suggested you add a necklace to your outfit, But when someone makes a comment about something you are passionate about, it is always okay to calmly confront the situation. Even if you hear a rumor, go straight to the source. Something like a, “Hey, I heard you said XYZ yesterday. What did you mean by that?” Standing up for yourself and what you believe in is never a problem, and should be done more often.
Start Taking More Risks:
A great step to improving yourself esteem and confidence is to get out of your comfort zone every now and again! Whether it be facing your fear to get on a looping roller coaster, or asking that hottie out for coffee, you’ll find it refreshing to do something you normally wouldn’t. Even if you end up screaming after both, you still tried!
4. Reflect Often, But Not Too Often:
It’s always great to take a few minutes to think back on mistakes and see how we can improve, but if you overthink the little details, you’ll start to be fearful of things you know you can do easily! Stay in the moment, and smile often; don’t let life pass you by!
5. Always Strive To Be Your Best Self!
Oscar Wilde had it right- Everyone else is taken- we need to be proud of who we are and we people we have become. We live and make mistakes, and try our best to succeed and accomplish our dreams. Always be proud of how much you have changed; and keep changing! I’ll admit I hate the general idea of change, but without it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
Keep on going, and always love who you are!